Why Do I Want a Baby So Bad

Marriage & Romantic Relationships

I want a baby so bad I cry

Is it normal to think daily about being a mommy. I'm 28 years old and been wanting to be a mother for the past year. It's so hard for me to be happy lately because all I think about is getting pregnant. My bf does want children with me but not right now which is confusing to me because we both love each other very much. I'm so anxious to get pregnant And cry daily. Its hard for me to even get through the day. this has affected my life. Does anyone else feel the same ?

comments ( 107 )

I want a baby so bad I cry

Savannah510

Is it normal to think daily about being a mommy. I'm 28 years old and been wanting to be a mother for the past year. It's so hard for me to be happy lately because all I think about is getting pregnant. My bf does want children with me but not right now which is confusing to me because we both love each other very much. I'm so anxious to get pregnant And cry daily. Its hard for me to even get through the day. this has affected my life. Does anyone else feel the same ?
I do to think that's healthy. Have you spoken to a doctor about your feelings? How strong they are??
It took my husband and I a year and a half to conceive and we did so with fertility treatments so it was a very long and emotional road. I didn't work while we were ttc so it was all I focused on. I hated myself every month because I wasn't pregnant. Sex became a routine and only because I was ovulating so my husband and I went from being best friends to being distant with each other. It was awful. You're definitely not alone. I painted a baby nursery years ago and I'd go in that room and cry all the time. I started drinking almost every day because it took away the pain and didn't like who I was because I was convinced something was wrong with me. A lot more women go through this than you think. My husband and I went to therapy for a few months after I got pregnant so we could get "us" back. My advice to you would be to enjoy your intimate time together, seek professional help or someone to talk to if it becomes overwhelming and in the meantime do things for you that make you happy. Volunteer to help others, babysit to get your baby fix and remember to stay positive. Good luck
I do to think that's healthy. Have you spoken to a doctor about your f…

No I haven't. I don't want her to think I'm crazy because the fact this feeling I'm having is so strong. It's hard for me to even get through the day. I even have to force myself to go to class it's that bad. I'm not happy at all because I'm not a mommy. I have no idea why I feel this way.
It will be 5 years when march hits. I know I'm trying to hang in there. I'm just so anxious to be a mother and I don't know y.
It took my husband and I a year and a half to conceive and we did so w…

Thank you and congrats. That's what I'm so afraid of too if I can't conceive . When I was 19 I had my ovary removed due to a dermoid tumor. I feel the older I'm getting the more anxious I'm becoming to be a mommy. My fear is what if I loose my other ovary. I would be devastated. My feelings of becoming a mommy are so strong I get severely depressed. I'm a bit relieved though its not abnormal to have these feelings. I thought I was the only one
No I haven't. I don't want her to think I'm crazy because the fact thi…

This is not normal and not just "a desire to be a mother." It is very likely you have a chemical imbalance of some kind, like depression. Please speak to your doctor.
(And I was 33 before having a child, after 3 miscarriages. So I'm not insensitive to your plight. I understand that it's a strong drive. But "I can barely drag myself out of bed to meet my obligations" is not an okay time in your life to have a child. Children do not fix your problems.)
(And I was 33 before having a child, after 3 miscarriages. So I'm not …

This. I'm going through undiagnosed fertility issues right now. I was also ready to start trying 2 full years before H was. so I get the desire to be a mom aND the disappointment. But what you're describing is not normal or healthy. Please speak to your doctor asap.
As others have said, it's not normal for it to be so consuming. It would definitely be best to talk to your doctor. You could also discuss your concerns about future fertility. Maybe some reassurance in that area would be helpful.
And finally, I have to ask if you are on the same page with your relationship status. At 28 and you call him a boyfriend after almost 5 years I would think maybe marriage is not in your plans. Nothing wrong with that if you both agree. But it wouldn't be unusual for someone to think that bringing a baby into a relationship would make a guy commit. In other words, the desperation isn't necessarily for the baby but what you think it would represent. Only you will know if there is any possibility of this being true.